To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure – JK Rowling.
Death is inevitable; it is a part of life – a necessary part of the life cycle that one should accept even though it is painful. Time will heal all the painful feelings after losing a loved one, but do not forget all the good memories with the bad just to move on.
Memorialization is a process of preserving the memories of people, animals, and events; in terms memorializing the departed ones, it is one of the best ways to keep all the bittersweet memories alive. Memorialization is not to start a new tradition, but to honor the memories of your loved one, who was there for you through the good times and the bad times.
There are some different ideas that are effective in terms of memorializing the departed; however, not all of these are appropriate to use due to the diversities and beliefs in culture, religion, and or race. So, to help you choose the right memorialization process for your departed one, here are the top two simple yet heart-warming ways to remember a loved one who has passed away.
1. Plant a tree
Death is not the end of one’s life, but a new cycle to start; planting a tree is a great way to keep someone’s memories alive. In fact, there are families who prefer burial pods instead of the traditional coffin. Burial pods are small pods that hold the body in a fetal position and buried underneath a tree. The dead body is safely decomposing underneath the tree while it grows healthily; in other words, while the body is decomposing, its remaining nutrients or life is transferred to the tree, which means the tree becomes a part of your departed loved one.
However, you do not have to go all that way if the other members of the family disapprove the process of burial pods; instead, you may take a few personal and treasured belongings of your departed loved one or pet and try to bury it underneath a tree sapling that you are planning to grow.
2. Keep some of their belongings with you
It’ll be hard – everyone knows that; however, to move on, you have to accept. And the best way to accept is to keep reminding yourself that he or she is no longer with you physically. Also, to help you throughout the grieving period, try to keep some of their belongings with you. You may also get some of the ashes of the departed and turn them into a necklace or a ring; this will make you feel that even though they are no longer there physically, there is something important from them that are always part of you.
There are a lot of ways to remember a loved one who had passed away; you may read some at Memorial Zen’s website.
Again death is not the end of everything, but it is a new journey for the departed.